How to Avoid Holiday Overwhelm When You Live with Migraine
Adriane Dellorco
November 25, 2024
How to Avoid Holiday Overwhelm When You Live with Migraine
Ah, the holidays! Twinkling lights, festive gatherings, and the aroma of warm spices fill the air. Yet, with all the magic comes the not-so-enchanting reality: stress, chaos, and that overwhelming feeling that somehow, you need to juggle a thousand things at once.
For those of us living with migraine, this time of year can be particularly challenging. Between the bright lights, bustling gatherings, and endless to-do lists, it’s easy to feel like the pressure is never-ending.
And let’s be real, most of the emotional and physical labor of the season often falls on women, adding another layer of stress.
But take heart. It’s possible to embrace the holidays while prioritizing your health and well-being.
Here’s how to navigate the season with grace and migraine-friendly strategies.
1. Embrace the Full Range of Emotions
The holidays are a mixed bag of emotions, and that’s completely normal. Happiness and sadness, excitement and fatigue, connection and loneliness—all these feelings can coexist, especially when you’re managing a migraine. Acknowledging your emotional landscape can help relieve the pressure of having to feel “merry” all the time.
Gentle Reminder
If you feel overwhelmed, pause and give yourself grace. It’s okay to be joyful one moment and tearful the next. Living with migraine is tough, and the holiday season can magnify your emotions. Be compassionate with yourself.
2. Use Yoga Principles to Ease Physical and Emotional Tension
Yoga offers more than just physical benefits, it can also help with the emotional rollercoaster of the season. Concepts like Aparigraha (non-attachment) encourage us to let go of unrealistic expectations, while Ahimsa (compassion) reminds us to treat ourselves with care.
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On days when your migraine symptoms are flaring or you’re feeling emotionally fragile, do a short, restorative yoga practice or even some simple seated stretches. Breathing exercises like alternate nostril breathing can also help soothe your nervous system and relieve some stress.
3. Manage FOMO with Self-Compassion
Missing out on holiday activities because of a migraine attack can be heart-wrenching. Seeing loved ones enjoy festivities when you’re stuck in a dark, quiet room can feel incredibly isolating.
But here’s a reminder,
Your worth isn’t determined by how many events you attend or how festive you can be. Rather than focusing on what you’re missing, try celebrating the gift you’re giving yourself: rest and recovery. It’s okay to grieve the moments you miss, but don’t let guilt take over. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough.
4. Handle Family Triggers with Mindful Strategies
Family dynamics can be stressful on a good day, and the holidays tend to magnify emotional triggers. Add migraine into the mix, and it’s no wonder that gatherings can feel overwhelming. Practicing mindfulness can help you stay grounded, even when tensions run high.
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Before walking into a potentially triggering situation, take a few moments to practice grounding. You could do a simple body scan, focusing on your feet firmly on the ground, or visualize yourself surrounded by a protective, calming light. If things get tense, excuse yourself for a short break to breathe and regroup.
5. Put Your Self-Care First
Women often carry the emotional and physical labor of the holidays, making self-care even more vital. Whether it’s saying “no” to certain obligations, taking time for a soothing bath, or doing a gentle yoga sequence, prioritizing your well-being isn’t selfish, it’s survival.
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Create a “self-care toolkit” with migraine-friendly practices. This could include essential oils, an eye mask, a favorite book, or a guided meditation playlist. Schedule these self-care moments into your calendar, just like you would any holiday event. Remember, you’re not a superhero; it’s okay to rest.
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Embrace the Imperfect, and Choose Peace Over Perfection.
The holiday season doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. For women living with migraine, the goal is not to do it all but to protect your health and find moments of joy where you can.
Let go of what you think the holidays should be, and embrace the reality of your unique experience. By choosing self-compassion and using migraine-friendly practices, you can find balance in the holiday chaos.
Wishing you a season filled with more peace, less pain, and a whole lot of self-love.
Happy Holidays!